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learning to trust yourself and your choices is something that takes practice.  i have much better discernment and trust in myself than i used to, but still find myself thinking long and hard about what people will think.  specifically will my choices for myself hurt them, and if they do, how will i handle the transition in our relationship?
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the message is usually “don’t care what people think” or “just do what makes you feel good” but when you are fully embracing your emotions, i find it difficult to shut off certain parts.  feeling requires even acknowledging the guilt, fear, and grief around things not being the way they’ve always been.
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i find in my relationship with my husband, as we shift, we’re constantly having to communicate about how we are now relating and what our needs are.  but in any relationship there will be constant shifting and changing if you’re both walking this path.
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if you’re not both walking to evolve and uplevel, then there is a bit of feeling like you’re leaving those you love behind or they may feel you’ve changed in ways they can’t understand.  let yourself feel these feelings.  find someone you can share with.  ask for what you need - whether it be advice or just someone to talk it through.  but let it out. .
the reason we’re often so afraid to shift and change is because of these emotions - the things that take place post the shifts.  you can release and journey unapologetically but the human part of you still may require the tending.  the compassion + love.
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x, Yasmine
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growth is not easy.  it doesn’t have to be hard, but it does indeed take work.
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for me, and for many, the toughest part of the work is allowing ourselves to be soft.  to be vulnerable.  to call on people when we’re in need and feel safe receiving from them.  to have the tough conversations and face the unknown.
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for me, it was always easier to avoid, put up blocks (without love and understanding which is different than boundaries), and not be present to my own emotions and needs.  everyone assumed that i was so strong and didn’t need anyone - didn’t need any help.  that i had it all figured out - when really i was craving connection.
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it took me a long time to realize, and this is still work for me, that in order to receive the things i want, i must not only be willing to be vulnerable enough to let others in, i must be vulnerable enough to ask.  i learned to discern who to ask and when to ask.  this practice also helped me really feel confident with saying no as well.
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this is where we grow in our friendships, partnerships, relationships, motherhood.  this is where we begin to feel and bend and move in ways we didn’t know we could.
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today i affirm that i trust myself enough to be vulnerable through the journey of growing.
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x, Yasmine
#1affirmationaday via @alex_elle
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as a woman of color, i’ve increasingly become aware of how many of the circles and communities built around spiritually, energy healing, etc don’t have women of color leading them.  there’s been so much important discussion about insuring women of color have representation in all spaces of healing and nurturing of women.  particularly that women of color at least have the option to see another women of color in any capacity (energy healing, spiritual growth, midwifery, Doula, etc.
( @glowmaven discussed this with increasing Doula training, @wildmysticwoman addresses this all the time in her work)
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most of my linear trainings have been from women who don’t look like me.  and in every single circle i’ve ever been in, i’ve experienced racism or some degree of spiritual bypassing - either by the person leading the circle or one of the women in the circle themselves.  while trying to heal trauma it is traumatic to experience trauma from the people or person that you’re supposed to trust that they see you and understand you.  it is extremely traumatic to be shamed when paying someone to help you heal.  this is not everyone of course, but it is present in a lot of places, and the uncomfortable conversations aren’t happening everywhere and true intersectionality isn’t being represented - and most definitely can be.  so many women of color are healers.
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my intention is to create a community, and serve communities, where all women feel comfortable and are seen and heard fully - for who they are in spirit, in the energy, and in their physical bodies here on earth.
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for me, this is one of the reasons I’m so excited and grateful to be offering my energy readings, energy healing sessions, and spiritual guidance individually and in groups (workshops) very soon.  i have felt the pull to be apart of this conversation and apart of this transition of women of color finally being apart of the conversation - and while going through my own gestation figuratively and literally while pregnant, it’s become even clearer how much it’s missing and i’m so thankful to be apart of the change.
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***continued in the comments***
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there is no situation, even in love, that means you have to forgo boundaries to participate.  we’re often made to feel that having boundaries is selfish or negative, but actually it’s a loving thing to have in place for yourself, your partner, your kids, your job and so on. .
setting boundaries is such a necessary thing to do, especially from a place of love.  and it’s also such a difficult thing to do.  knowing what to say, how to enforce them, and also how to keep them in place.  knowing how to speak up and how to have the difficult conversations.
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boundaries are meant to keep us safe, but they’re also meant to protect the peace that we’re trying to cultivate or keep alive in our own lives.  this means that even if you have someone in your life that is “boundary-less” and they have a lot of drama or things taking place that you don’t necessarily want to be apart of, you can still love them and be present while also lovingly having boundaries in place that hold true to the promises you’ve made to yourself.
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boundaries aren’t necessarily about the other person.  they’re about what you need, the way you’d like your life to be, and the things you need to do to ensure your energy remains aligned.
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others may be triggered by your boundaries.  they may feel many ways about them.  having those tough conversations about why they’re important to you for the way you want to live your life may be necessary but also, sometimes no conversation is necessary.  each situation is different.
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practicing upholding boundaries and staying true to yourself is self-love.  it is the purest form of self-care.  take care of you.  with love.
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x, Yasmine
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there is nothing like a season of struggles, disappointments, and let-downs, to make you feel like you’re being picked on by life. sometimes it happens for a few weeks or sometimes we can feel like we’ve been in years of trials.
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as i wrote in my journal, i thought about everything i’d been going through and how it’s been shaping me.  forcing me to deal with things i probably would’ve continued to avoid or push aside had it not been brought to the surface.  making me face the things i really need and bring them to fruition.
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i also thought about how the low times brought me so much closer, made me more appreciative, and had me focus on what was really important in my life while also highlighting all of the good and support and love i have in my life already - even when i spiral into the space of feeling completely and utterly alone.
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when i love myself through all of this, it gives me the space and freedom that I’m asking for.  it shows me who i can call on and who has always been there.  it allows me to show compassion to myself and then see others and send them compassion and love too.
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most importantly, it’s a reminder that we’re all experiencing life and it’s seasons at different levels at different times.  we’re all going through something.  we’re all trying to figure out how we’ll make it through something.
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remember to give yourself love.  send love.  receive love (this is the hardest). let those who want to be there and have the capacity to be there show up for you.  allow yourself to be cared for, by yourself and others.
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being present to this is where the magic is.
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x, Yasmine
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sometimes we don’t recognize how much we’ve grown until we see it.  practice it.  have someone acknowledge it.
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i was having a conversation today and the person said to me ‘i never would’ve imagined we’d be having the convo we’re having right now.  before, you seemed way too defensive to even approach about this.’
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this is something i wouldn’t have been able to hold or acknowledge before.  there would’ve been so much shame, so much story.  and listen, there is still grief and sadness about the changes to come.  but the fact that i could hold space for the conversation led me to realize that growth had taken place.
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between all of the tears.  all of the fear.  all of the ‘constructive crisis’ I’d walked through.  the therapy, the retreats, the coaching sessions, the energy sessions.  the prayer.  the writing until my hands cramped.  through it all, there had been some growth, meaning that i’d taken some steps, all on my own.  even though God is always with us, we ALWAYS have free choice.
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if you’re like me (I’m an Aries but also a recovering perfectionist who used to find it really hard to rely on people and honestly still does), then you also sometimes step completely over growth, acknowledgement and gratitude to yourself.  you go straight to what you have to do next and get back in the saddle of what i need to do, instead of look at what I’ve already done!
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i’ve made it my mission to practice showing up for myself like i would a friend, a partner, or my daughter - to really show myself gratitude for all of the ways i felt i was progressing.  because this work is tough.  it’s a daily practice and choice.  and it’s one I’ve done with support - of course - but the steps that were taken to get there, are mine.
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take some time to show all of the different parts of you, of all different ages, that showed up to help you make the changes and progression you’ve made, immense gratitude and love for all they’ve done.  let it wash over you.
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it will be there during the next journey, to remind you what’s on the other side of the current place.  that there is another side and you will make it through.
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again, we were made for this.
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x, Yasmine

"Self-love is the key to everything"

— YASMINE CHEYENNE